Friday, October 29, 2010

Good Manners Have Nothing to Do With Status

I was walking to Starbucks this morning with Vanessa in her Snap N Go stroller (the baby car seat snaps into this). Feeling tired like most mornings (since my wake-up time is 6 a.m these days), I had my hair pulled back in a messy ponytail and was wearing a black fitted sweater with comfy yoga pants. suddenly I noticed a very polished looking tall slender blonde in a perfectly tailored royal blue dress and a classic pair of black Christian Louboutin pumps (pictured here). I spotted the red shoe soles immediately-my own CL pumps have been collecting dust in the closet for over a year now. She was crossing the street from the opposite side of the street from me walking in a brisk pace towards the same Starbucks cafe as I was. She looked beautiful and confident holding a blackberry curve in a perfectly manicured hand and I noticed my immediate reaction of trying to nervously pat down my own messy hair strands and thinking about the day when I finally would lose these last extra 12 pounds to fit back into my pre-pregnancy clothes especially all my cute jeans that wont go up past my thighs anymore. I smiled at her kindly as she approached the Starbucks cafe right before me. Her mind seemed preoccupied with work matters as she bearly glanced at me, opened the door and let it shut right before me hitting the front wheel of my Snap-N-Go stroller. How rude! was my immediate next thought. All the sudden, a homeless man who was standing right outside noticing me trying to reach for the door with one hand on the stroller still, rushed over a couple of steps and opened the door for me followed by saying " here you go miss". What a defining moment. If I ever thought that manners have any correlation with one's status in life, this moment was like a paradigm shift, making me realize in an instant real beauty which I consider good manners and compassion is all about how you treat the world around you (especially when no one you know is looking) and has absolutely nothing to do with physical appearances or status. Happy Friday y'all!


  1. Small thinks remind us who we are and bring us back to the good within. Only an empty person can miss the beauty of what others have inside. They say never judge a book by its cover, but we do it all the same. Chasing dreams of perfection and in some way looking all the same. However although money brings us many things, theres much it cannot do. It can not teach you manners or make you upper class; it cannot educate ignorance or make us fall in Love. We cousin are lucky for we are easily reminded and grounded. I wonder if the beautiful woman is as lucky to see what we see and have the wealth that comes with it.

  2. Aw, Shadi what a good story with a great ending!

  3. I love that you said that. It's so true; I was raised by my mother to have and appeciate good manners, which unfortunately seem to be dwindling as times go by. But we do judge people by their appearance and status in life, that somehow the man in the suit will be more polite than the guy in the dirty sweater. It would have been difficult for me to bite my tongue regarding the rude, polished lady!
    Also, thanks for the well wishes on my blog. I am so relieved that he is ok. The older you get, the more you realize how important family is.